Being In Heaven Film

Part 6 of the 11 Steps of Personal Growth 

by
Michael Domeyko Rowland
Writer, Director and star of 'Being In Heaven'

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Three Methods for Success
Let's now look at three methods you can apply immediately, to bring greater success and satisfaction in any of your endeavours. And remember, these can be applied to relationships, finances, career, creativity, health, sport or anything at all.

Method One - Identify Your Behaviours
It is crucial to realise that most human beings are on automatic, rather like programmed robots. They become conditioned by their upbringing. Which means they literally download, and then play out, the behaviours and actions of those who bought them up. Whoever impressed you, obviously parents, teachers, family members and anyone else, are the source of all your behaviours, and therefore your choices. You play out these patterns forever, perhaps wondering why it is often hard to change. Without dealing directly with this, it is impossible to change.

The first step for you is to identify all your behaviours. Each area of your life has a behaviour, or personality expression. You generally have five or six main ways of expressing yourself. So, how do you express yourself, and feel about yourself, at home, work, socialising, leisure activities, by yourself and so on. Write these down, as this allows you some distance to really understand why your life is as it is. It can be quite surprising.

Method Two - Creating New Behaviours and Actions

Once you have identified how you act in your life, then decide to change what you need to, so you can achieve the life experiences you want. But here is the most common mistake. People, who want to change their life, rarely realise that it is firstly their own behaviours and actions which they need to change. AND, unfortunately, you cannot actually change a behaviour.

A behaviour is a fixed program, recorded into your brain, which you downloaded when you were growing up. It is what it is, you cannot change it. Exactly like the language you learnt, when young, is what it is. There is no use trying to make the part of your personality, which speaks English, suddenly start to speak French. You need to create a new language program in your mind, which then learns to speak French.

It is the same if you want to become more decisive, loving, successful, financially aware etc. You have to create a new structure. So, for any change, you have only one option, and that is to create new behaviours and actions. Our second step is to then decide exactly what are the new behaviours and actions you want to develop.

Method Three - Implementing Your New Behaviours

Once you have decided on the necessary behaviours, you need to implement them. Just like learning a new language, you start with very small steps. Say you want to become more loving, so you can have a better relationship. You probably were not taught how to love when you were young. You might decide on a variety of ways to express love. You might speak more gently, become more caring, or be more thoughtful about what the person you love needs, and supply their needs for them.

Or, if you want to be more financially independent, you realise that it is necessary to be responsible with money, so you choose to very carefully set aside time to study how money is made, you may clear your mind of any negative beliefs about having money, or you might put a little bit away regularly to save a deposit for an investment house. Then you would behave in these ways, choosing to do one at a time, until each is firmly established as a new behaviour.

All about Action!

It is small actions which are the secret of change. Many people try to make big changes at once, but it rarely lasts. Any building constructed on weak foundations is in danger of collapse in strong winds. If you have not carefully and consciously built new behaviours and actions, by regular and consistent practice, then the winds of your relationship or financial realities will blow down the changes you have tried to make. Practice makes perfect is the old saying. Your body/mind is an instrument, which you need to learn to play, no different from a piano. Learn and practice the scales and you will master whatever you want to play in your life.

Next Issue

We will discuss next issue the ways to free yourself of your past conditioning in order to achieve ultimate success.  

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